How Do I recognize a Good Therapist?
First - you really should consider having a consultation.
The relationship is EVERYTHING. In your consultation, ask yourself, "If I met this person outside of therapy, would I want to be friends?" That's the kind of connection you're looking for.
In modern psychotherapy practices, we don't want someone who nods while you circle the same story repeatedly. That's not healing. We want to find a therapist who can be present enough to track your inner states as they happen in real time. Someone quick and aware, listening for the emotional patterns behind your words.
Do they have all the right credentials and trainings? Yes.
AND....
Do you feel as if they've "got you"? Do you feel emotionally held where you may be uncertain, nervous, upset or frightened? Scan their website for signs that there's something that stands out from the average. Watch their face and listen to the tone of their voice. Do they catch on quickly? Do they make you feel calm? Reassured? Do they answer your questions in a way that feels inspiring? Are you curious to try what they're offering? Look for that extra little "something".
The goal of therapy isn't insight alone. The goal is an internal feeling of steadiness, stronger self-trust, more self-compassion, personal calm and grace, and a return to yourself. The right therapist can go wherever you go. She can understand whatever you bring - because she's been there.
The relationship is EVERYTHING. In your consultation, ask yourself, "If I met this person outside of therapy, would I want to be friends?" That's the kind of connection you're looking for.
In modern psychotherapy practices, we don't want someone who nods while you circle the same story repeatedly. That's not healing. We want to find a therapist who can be present enough to track your inner states as they happen in real time. Someone quick and aware, listening for the emotional patterns behind your words.
Do they have all the right credentials and trainings? Yes.
AND....
Do you feel as if they've "got you"? Do you feel emotionally held where you may be uncertain, nervous, upset or frightened? Scan their website for signs that there's something that stands out from the average. Watch their face and listen to the tone of their voice. Do they catch on quickly? Do they make you feel calm? Reassured? Do they answer your questions in a way that feels inspiring? Are you curious to try what they're offering? Look for that extra little "something".
The goal of therapy isn't insight alone. The goal is an internal feeling of steadiness, stronger self-trust, more self-compassion, personal calm and grace, and a return to yourself. The right therapist can go wherever you go. She can understand whatever you bring - because she's been there.
